My husband is a prude
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Now she wants to help you keep things spicy and fresh between the sheets. Are you in need of an intimacy intervention? Just ask Abiola! Dear Abiola, I never thought that sex would come between my husband and I. I was raised a devout Pentecostal Christian and have only been with one other man in my lifetime — a mistake before I got married.
The only thing I learned about sex growing up is that it was bad, dirty and for reproduction only. I am no longer with that particular church but am still a very Godly woman. When we got married a year ago, my husband used to lovingly call me a prude. I would say yes around once or twice a week.
Why is he such a prude? what is his problem?
Since then, it has become once or twice a month. Last night, he accused me of not loving him anymore.
Of course I love him and the sex is okay, but sex is just not a priority for me. At the end of the day I am exhausted. I know it sounds crazy but I still have my upbringing in my head; sex is for procreation.
One day he asked me to just touch myself so he could watch and I looked at him like he was crazy. I feel awkward. Is it too late? It is never too late. The time has come for you to evolve and blossom.
You can be Godly and sexual in your marriage. Who do you think created your bodies? Your Creator made your body to be a source of pleasure for you both. The right amount of contact in any relationship is whatever the consenting adults mutually agree to. Right now, your sex drives are out of sync. Your man deserves love and affection, just as you do. Pay attention, princess. When your hubby jumped the broom he obviously admired the Godly, and yes, sexually-reserved woman he vowed to love forever. This must turn him on on some level. The key is for you to acknowledge your own desires as natural, normal and healthy.
Why did you freak out when your helpmate said that he wanted to see you touch yourself? Your body is not dirty and enjoying this passion does not make you evil or bad.
Stand naked in front of a mirror and take a full look at your magnificence. Your vulva, your vagina and your clitoris are rich with splendiferous nerve endings. Your clitoris is the only body part created solely for pleasure. Yay you! Appreciate and be grateful for the queen that you are. Touch your body.
Step 2. Indulge in a dance class that gets you back in touch with your own body. Release that goddess energy by getting those hips moving. Hula hooping and Caribbean dance should do the trick. Classes like belly-dancing, burlesque dancing and pole fitness will all help you to resurrect your sexy.
This is the way tap into that divine feminine energy. Move it or lose it, bella. In my Bombshell Bootcamp coaching program I teach women that we have to feel sexy and radiant in our own bodies before you can feel turned on for someone else. Step 3. Treat your partner to 40 days and 40 nights of loving lust.
Part of the passion for your man is chasing you, but you have rejected him so much that he may be in shutdown mode.
For the next 40 days, I want you and your hubby to have sex every night. Yes, every single night.
Sex is not just about connecting bodies. Between two people that love each other, you are connecting hearts, minds and spirits as well. This is a sacred energy exchange. Read erotica with your man. Daring to role play as new people can help alleviate the pressure of your personal history. Step 4. When you are intimate, be fully present. If you are one hundred percent in the moment, your fears will cease to be a love blocker. Allow yourself to be soft, open and vulnerable.
The way to be fully present during sex is to engage all of your senses. Set the scene with candles and sensual music. Go to a hotel if you can afford it.
My husband is a prude, what should i do?
Think about how he smells, enjoy the way he feels and really look at this man you walked down the aisle with. Listen closely as well.
Let him know that he is your king, your he-man and your everything. Give him full access to all of you. You are making your present pay for the past and punishing both you and your husband with the lack of intimacy. Your husband deserves to be loved fully and so do you. Passionately yours, Abiola Courtesy of Abiola Abrams. Follow Us.
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